Give Yourself a Talking To by Renee Ann Smith

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I awoke anxious and afraid almost every morning
during my school-age years.

Nothing traumatic had happened in my past. No one in my family had died. Two stable parents left for work every morning & returned home every night. We always had a roof over our heads & food on the table.

Yet still I woke with a sick feeling in my stomach and the urge to hide from the world and the certainty that no one could protect me from the fearful things that were coming my way. My morning alarm was the signal for my current “What Ifs” to begin circling in my brain . . .

 . . . “What if I miss the bus again & this time Mom gets mad? What if the history teacher gives a quiz on the chapter I didn’t read? What if I can’t find anyone to sit with at lunch? What if I do something embarrassing & the whole class sees? . . .”

Somewhere along the line, I learned
to give myself a “Good Talking To.”

Back then, my early morning mantra went something like this . . . “You’re fine. Everyone you know is fine. This is just life. You can handle it. And when you can’t, it’s okay to ask for help . . .”

I didn’t realize until after I became a Christian, what a valuable lesson my young self had learned.

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As a dear friend who battled depression for years told me,
“When I started talking to myself instead of listening to myself, that’s when I began to heal.”

In the dictionary, talking & listening are opposites. When it comes to our inner life, not so much.

But in the Bible, we see that men like David understood the subtle distinction. Psalm 42 shows us the conversation he had with himself . . . 

“Why, my soul, are you downcast?  Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and my God.”

How freeing to learn that we don’t have to be the victims of the fearful, anxious thoughts that try to take up residence in our brains. Are you experiencing fear & anxiety?

Maybe it’s time to give yourself a good talking to!
Here are a few verses & quotes to start you off . . .

“We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” ~II Corinthians 10:5~

“Set your mind on the things above, not on the things that are on earth.” ~Colossians 3:2~

“Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.” ~Philippians 4:8~

“For God has said, ‘I will never leave you nor forsake you.’” ~Hebrews 13:5b~

“When I am afraid, I will trust in you.” ~Psalm 56:3~

“You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in You.” ~Isaiah 26:3~

“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” ~William James, philosopher, psychologist, physician, 1842-1910~

“Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow. It empties today of its strength.” ~Corrie ten Boom~

“When fear comes knocking at your door, send faith to answer.” ~Joyce Meyer~

Now it’s your turn.
What are some of your favorites?
Feel free to bless us by sharing something encouraging in the comments here or on Facebook!

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ReneeRenee Ann Smith teaches English in a Christian high school by day and writes devotionals & inspirational stories by night. You can find her at her blog Doorkeeper.

Comments 7

  1. This week’s sermon was on a similar topic, how to not fear rejection. The pastor gave us homework which is to read a list of verses that tell us who we are in Christ. After all, He is the important one. Our audience of One.

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  2. I LOVED this one, Renee. I was always a fearful kid myself. Afraid of the dark. Afraid our house would catch fire. Afraid my parents would die. Afraid, afraid, afraid. I remembered that life of fear as I wrote PHARAOH’S DAUGHTER and fashioned Anippe (the heroine) with a similar mindset–although she had good reasons to live in fear. At one point, a wise character in the story helps her see that fear can lead her to El Shaddai and says, “FEAR IS THE MOST FERTILE GROUND FOR FAITH.” I’ve found that to be true in my life. My roots of faith really grow when fear drives them deep into God.

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  3. Recently we had some big changes at work and I’m so afraid I won’t be able to remember everything. I walk thru the day repeating to myself. …I can do all things thru Christ who strengthens me. Makes my day flow so much better.

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      I’ve had my share of those days, too, Ronda! I love how He calms us when we make a point to invite Him into our day. Thanks for sharing.

  4. Thanks so much Renee for sharing these thoughts that many of us can relate to. The Scriptures are so full of comfort and reassurance. One verse that I run to often…and share with others as well…is Nahum 1:7 – ‘The Lord is good; a stronghold in the day of trouble, and He knows them that trust in Him’. How blessed to know we don’t have to have the spirit of fear, but of love and power and of a sound mind. God bless you richly.

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